I think I'd wire it through one of those old 2-speed axle switches mounted on the shift lever so you can get to it when you need it plus you will "feel" if it is on or off. The relay was there to remotely operate the solenoid to keep the power wire to it shorter providing more voltage and also to give the engagement soledoid a way to shut the system off when in reverse lock out or kick down, that is, if you use a kick down switch.
Kerby