Retired with full benefits. I was married (still am, same woman) during many of the underway times. Areas around Navy bases are full of folks that "are in the same boat" as everyone else. We help each other out when the shipmate is underway and you are home. The wives have a social support group (wives club) with trained ombudsmen to help with crisis. The ombudsman has a direct link to the CO through the type commander. Helps with rumors!
My father is the reason I ended up in the Navy. He was WW2, Pacific theater, and as Nam was winding up, I was the oldest of 5 on a small dairy farm, with no money for college, he said you should consider joining the Navy or the Air Force. If you get drafted you will eat, sleep, pee, poop and die in a mud hole! The Navy didn't have neck ties....:<)