Mebbe try "holding" the engine in place? This could be done by leaving it in gear, or possibly removing the starter and putting a long bolt in to jamb the flywheel in place.
Someone sells a tool which can substitute for the starter and either "holds" - or can be used with a ratchet wrench to turn the engine over (like for timing, etc.)
Once you get the ratchet nut (technical term) removed, then you find out if you have a one piece or a two piece pulley. If one piece, you have to pull pulley and hub away from the seal - be careful as the hub spokes are wont to break easily. Use the BFH and a screwdriver - or a formal "puller" - at the "base" of those spokes - don't pry on the hub. You should be able to pull directly forward and remove the one piece pulley.
If two piece, the front portion of the hub should come off and you should be clear to work next on the yoke. Two bolts on the engine front and the below-crossmember nut and you have it.
You may not like what you see below the yoke - expect rust damage and a need to rebuild/restore this area - which can be done by experienced welders. There used to be a "shim piece" which worked similarly to your washers and thinner, but spread the load out over a larger area of the crossmember - not sure if this is available now. And it is sort of a "bandaid" - like the washers.
Oh. Don't forget to loosen before and re-tighten after the four bolts attaching the flywheel to either side of the frame supports - dropping the front of the engine changes the relative position of these four bolts in their holes.
Joe K