My truck had a 4.11 rear end, and I had a 3.54 put in . Now is very smooth up to 35, 35 -50 is happy but a little busier, but not really what I would call vibration. Above 50, yes it has some vibration, at 55 it is turning 2300 RPM, more than that is not really great for the motor or my nerves.
During the build of a motor there extras you can pay for to smooth things out for a touring motor. Balancing , counterweight, making sure all the rods/pistons/valves are the same weight.
Personally I am happy with what I have, I like a slower pace with no worries of overdriving the brakes, not having to spend tons more money to make the steering and brakes perfect. Am very happy only driving 30 -35 normally enjoying the slower pace, and 45-50 when I have traffic behind me.
Some/most who do a lot of touring have some or all of teh following - high compression heads, different cam, non-stock carb, performance exhaust and or intake manifolds, Mitchell overdrive, etc., etc., and their cars are extremely nice, almost as good as a modern car.
So what did your motor guy have to say?