Top leaf on mine is nothing more than a spacer. 8 total. The top leaf is a leaf but so short to really do anything but act as a spacer. The saddle does have ridges which could act as a spacer also and I don't know if all are that way or not. I have no idea if or what was done during the 35 years before I got this monster.
Ride height, to very bottom of bumper, front 18" , rear 17"
I'm very conscience of how a vehicle 'sits' and I like the way this car 'sits' [ slightly higher in the rear]. I'm not saying what is right or wrong, just what I just measured.
As far as ride quality, its about right as far as I'm concerned and it doesn't seem to mind having all seats loaded, including rumble.
I'm not sure how much you want to 'soften' up your ride. But, I don't have an issue with removing [ or adding] leafs [been doing spring work and enjoying it for 50+ years]. If counting from top to bottom, top leaf being #1. I think you could either remove every other leaf [ 2,4,6] or 3 and 5 and see how you like it. [ I'm talking rear. I don't think I'd remove more than one, if any, from the front, but, thats your choice]
Its not too hard to do. Just undo the u-bolts and let the whole works drop a bit. C-clamp the spring leaves and undo the center bolt unscrewing the c-clamp as you go until there is no tension left. Remove the leaves you want then and button everything back up. I insert the center bolt and use the c-clamp to squeeze the leaves as I tighten the center bolt.