Just some bench racing thoughts on rod stretch here: It would seem that the weakest part of the rod (as far as stretch goes) would be the big end, not the beam. At the top of the exhaust stroke, as the piston is coming to a stop and changing direction, all the stress is on the rod cap (or lower insert). This tends to distort the bore of the big end of the rod, pulling it into an egg shape. A few thousandths' worth of distortion and the sides of the big end will pull in and wipe out the oil film, and the rod self-destructs. But this doesn't happen (usually). It just seems to me that the rod bore would distort before the beam of the rod could stretch. Therefore, I suspect that the real culprit when a piston kisses a head is crankshaft deflection from centrifugal force, not rod stretch. (After all, it's been said that a crankshaft suffers from deflection by merely laying on a floor!)
Any comments?