ck lyons>>>but I don't get it.>>>>
Your best bet is if you can find an alternator shop that can replace the 1-wire internal regulator with a 3-wire internal regulator.
If you want to run a 3 wire regulator as a 1 wire all you do is run a pigtail wire from the #2 sensor terminal directly to the battery output terminal. The #1 exciter terminal is left open (you don't have these 2 terminals on your existing regulator). As you already know, without an exciter terminal, you sometimes must rev the engine a bit to get it to start charging from residual magnetism in the alternator.
For a 2-wire setup, again run a pigtail from #2 to the battery output terminal. The #1 terminal is then connected to the ignition switch thru a bulb idiot light and/or resistor in series.
For a 3-wire setup, run a wire from #2 to some remote circuit location to sense voltage at that point. The #1 terminal is connected to the ignition switch like the 2-wire setup. The 3-wire is the best setup to keep battery properly charged and is preferred over a 1-wire only alternator setup.
As for your existing 1 wire not charging at idle with a smaller pulley after excitation , I think this indicates a problem with either the alternator coils or its internal regulator.
BTW, if the alternator does drain the battery when not in use, there is a problem with it's internal diodes.
Jack E/NJ