If it was me... 1. call the rebuilder and talk it through, have him tell you what to do to troubleshoot etc. 2. People are busy, it may take some time for him to reconcentrate his efforts to helping you. 3. Document, Document, Document. Write down EXACTY what you did WITHOUT filtering it. Keep track of when you called the builder, what you said/he said. Also video is your friend, make a video showing engine oil, coolant in radiator, sound of engine etc. 4. Things happen, rather than try to figure out who's fault it is, try to partner up with the builder to resolve the issue.
I'm not finding fault with what you have done, your unwillingness to disclose the builder until you've worked through this says volumes about your integrity.