J white,the main thing is to never let her boil. (if you can avoid it) If you have a pressure system that is hot, and you remove the cap (dangerous) that will make an engine boil, all on its own, if it was hot enough (even when the engine is stopped) When the engine boils, gas bubbles form inside the head or block. These gas bubbles stop the transfer of heat away from that particular area. The term is local overheating. This is when damage is done, because the temperature varies from one part of the casting to another. This is when cracks happen. Invariably it happens around the exhaust valve seats, because that is where the most heat is.
When you ask if you should shut her down at a certain temp. That can be just as bad.
When you stop moving forward(air flow) or the fan stops moving the air. she will get hotter for a while. You are better to ease the load, and let the temp come back. If she is getting hot because you are hauling a load up hill, you are better to slow down, drop a gear, and ease up on the throttle (fan moving more air) than to stay in top gear with the throttle down.
It's a matter of driving her like your running her in, balancing the throttle against the temp gauge.
Is any of that helpful?