It's not just you. I understand the dilemma but a little rust never bothered me as much as painted.Maybe it is just me; but paint on a bumper usually looks tackier than a rusty bumper and completely painted bumpers look even worse.
Ouch! Bad move taking the wife to Subway... That sounds like something I would do to my wife... I guess that's why I don't have one anymore.. but I can tell you, it's a lot more peaceful!!! LoL....