As mentioned, make sure the pcv system is operating properly. If not, the crankcase pressure (blowby) has to go somewhere and a rear main seal is one of those places. Are you sure the rear main bearing and crank are within tolerances? If it's not, it'll be tough to seal. I assume you are using a neoprene replacement seal and not another rope and that you removed the original steel pin in the main cap that would keep the rope from moving. That said, you mentioned staggering the seal, and you did install it the correct direction, sharp edge towards the front. A suggestion is that you don't get carried away with the silcone, a small film on the outside and just a tiny dab on the ends. Too much and it will cause the seal edge to not flex properly and the oil will pass thru.
One last thought, are you sure it's the main seal that's leaking and not the rubbber seal at the rear of the oil pan?